Sam Winchester Should Be So Lucky…
Monday, November 21st, 2011 Nov 21st, 2011

I know I’m a bit behind the times with this, but it’s taken me a while to gather my thoughts and get a grip on my feelings, which range from mild frustration to incoherent rage, in regard to the “Season Seven, Time for a Wedding” episode.

Honestly, even after all this time, I’m not sure where to begin. I think I have three main areas of complaint, and to be clear, none of this is about the acting or actors involved. These items are purely related to the writing of the show and the choices the writers are making. (And hey, who am I to judge? I’ve never written for television, so I don’t know what it’s like. I’m reacting to this purely as a viewer.)

First, Becky. Here’s the thing. Becky is an easy target. She’s a joke, a caricature instead of a character. They’ve made her that way, and they just keep going back to that same well, making her crazier every time. It’s weak. I’ll be honest, the first time Becky made an appearance, I thought it was clever, fun. A way of letting us know they’re aware how devoted and passionate (and occasionally a little over the top) the fanbase for the show can be. It was like an inside joke. The second time Becky appeared, I liked her a little less because she was edging closer to crazy (stealing Chuck’s phone to text the boys, taking them away from actual life-saving activities) and completely oblivious to Sam’s lack of interest in her. The first time I can attribute her behavior to being starstruck (presumably she admires Sam as well as finds him attractive). The second time, it comes off more as creepy and manipulative.

And now…now, she’s just ridiculous and, on a certain level, insulting. HELLO. She’s a stand-in for us, the devoted viewers. (Well, those of us who remain devoted…I know that number is shrinking. I’m not even sure if I count myself among them anymore.) The writers have gone to great lengths to make sure that connection between Becky and the audience is made, whether it’s referencing her use of the message boards or, in previous eps, attending an SPN con. If you follow that logic, THEY ARE MAKING FUN OF US EVERY TIME SHE APPEARS. And then with the way Becky is treated on the show…well, if you extend that metaphor to the end, they’re saying: we can treat them (Becky) like shit and they are (Becky is) just crazy enough to keep coming back for more. They (she) will take any scrap of attention we give and be grateful for it.

You know what would have impressed me more? If they’d humanized Becky. Made her a real person with strong feelings toward these people she sees as heroes (and okay, as characters, too.) I mean, isn’t it pretty basic logic that if you’re going to make the AUDIENCE a CHARACTER on your show it should be a character that the audience can like or admire or at least not be embarrassed by?

The writers could have done that. They could have given Becky a nice two or three ep arc where she was helping the boys out, to their shock and perhaps dismay. Because here’s the thing, Becky knows her sh*t and she wasn’t afraid to step in and save Sam when he needed it. They could USE more people like that in their lives. More allies (even crazy ones) would be welcome. Now, granted, a scenario like that would put Sam in a difficult position because he knows Becky’s feelings for him are motivating her willingness to risk her life and he also knows he doesn’t feel the same way toward her, but if they really needed her help…man, that’s juicy conflict. Wish it would have played out like that.

(Hence, the title of my blog post. I mean, take away some of the writer-induced crazy, and here you have a girl who knows what the Winchester life is like, admires what they’re doing, could actually help out from time to time with her comprehensive knowledge about their world, and she’s cute. As I said, Sam Winchester should be so damn lucky.)

Second, Sam and Dean’s attitude toward Becky, both individually (such as Dean’s reaction to them getting married) and together (the “whew, dodged that bullet” attitude at the end.) All right. I admit, I might be a little sensitive about this. But occasionally, I get a little tired of shows hauling out a pretty girl and tagging her as lesser because she doesn’t meet some theoretical higher beauty standard held by the genuine love interests (however few and far between they’ve been) that have appeared on the show. I mean, if we’re going to do this Becky = crazy, defy expectations. Make her gorgeous, make her nuts about Supernatural, and make Dean conflicted about wanting to sleep with her but also afraid of increasing her infatuation AKA craziness.

Also, back to the whole audience relatablity thing…so our stand-in is a lonely girl deemed unattractive (not that the actress actually IS unattractive, but we’re apparently supposed to think she is, hence Crowley’s crack about her having good personality) with no social life, no prospects and the only way she/we can get a date to the reunion is by drugging him? Um, thanks? (Also, she had to MARRY him to get him to go the reunion? She couldn’t just drug him for a night or two? Once again, they’re pointing out the levels of her desperation and asking us to laugh. Yuck.)

One could make the argument that the SPN writers are doing in the Becky episodes what The Big Bang Theory folks do every week–making fun of the very people who like their show. But BBT is a show in praise of nerds and geeks. We laugh because we identify WITH their idiosyncrasies. In this case, with Becky, we’re supposed to be laughing AT her. And quite frankly, I’ve had enough of that for one lifetime.

Third, details, details, DETAILS! Willing suspension of disbelief is all in the details. If you’re going to go to all this trouble of establishing the precept that Sam and Dean must hide–they can’t use the Impala, they have to change their phones on a irregular-regular basis (or whatever Deveraux says), they can’t use any of their regular aliases, they can’t run their credit card scams, etc.– then please tell me how a scene in which Sam is signing his REAL NAME on the annulment papers (and presumably the marriage certificate before it) makes sense? As far as I know, a marriage certificate is a public document, as in one filed at the County Clerk’s Office. I assume that the annulment papers would be the same. If the Leviathans have people in the credit bureaus, I’m assuming they’ve got someone running the occasional Google search as well.

Speaking of which, SAM, way to let Becky tweet about what’s going on so the Leviathans can track her and/or you down. Twitter is public and searchable. Sheesh. The love potion, presumably, doesn’t impact his brain function in any other way other than making him think he’s in love, right?

And this is the first time we’ve heard of Vegas Week, right? In other words, something that is supposed to be so part of the canon that Chuck would write about it…and there’s been no mention of it? To be clear, I don’t have a problem with them filling in the gaps. We don’t know everything about Sam and Dean’s lives and certainly stuff has to happen outside the confines of what we see on the show. But if this is an annual trip, and presumably an important enough one for Chuck to have bothered writing about it, then it feels weird and made up that we’re JUST hearing about it now.

All this being said, I really enjoyed last Friday’s “How to Win Friends and Influence Monsters” so I’m not giving up yet. But…grrrr. The inconsistency is very frustrating.

Note: I’m totally up for a discussion on any of this–love hearing from other SPN fans–but hey, if it gets all name-call-y and nasty–as I’ve witnessed on other sites–I will use my delete powers with impunity. :)

24 comments to “Sam Winchester Should Be So Lucky…”



  1. 1

    Amen, Stacey. You just summed up my frustration quite nicely. Thank you.


  2. 2

    I know longer know what these writers are doing with this show. The characters are unrecognizable to me and the plotholes so numerous, it’s laughable. I get no sense that the showrunners respect or even like their audience – I think writing out Collins, and continually baiting his fans about his possible return since then, is a refection of that… as was this episode. I see the ratings slumped to just over 1.5m and I sincerely hope someone higher up is on the phone asking the showrunners how they plan to rectify that.


  3. 3

    I completely understand your frustration with ‘S7, Time for a Wedding.’ I’ve never really been fond of Becky because she seemed creepy to me from the moment she was introduced in S5. But I think my main problem with S7, TFAW was that it was TOO much Becky all the time. I can stomach her in small doses, but when her brand of crazy is the centerpiece of the episode I tend to have a bit of a hard time. I also understand your point about Becky being a stand-in for the audience, and to a certain extent I agree. She is supposed to represent the dedication and passion of the SPN fandom, but I think she’s supposed to be such a caricature. And this is where I think we begin to disagree. The writers are well aware that for the most part, SPN fans are normal people who love this show, the actors who work so hard on it, and everyone else that makes the show happen. For the most part, we all have a reasonable (semi-healthy) addiction to the show. We attend SPN cons and ask lots of questions about the show/actors but it’s generally polite and appropriate. But whether we want to admit it or not, a very small portion of the fandom IS Becky. That’s the part of the fandom that cannot seem to separate reality from fiction. They do insanely outrageous things (like spewing hatred/threats at Mrs. Padalecki and Mrs. Ackles simply because they’re married to our favorite leading men) and make the rest of us look bad. And I got the sense that’s what this latest Becky episode was supposed to convey. I didn’t see it as an all out assault on the SPN fandom at large. Just the legitimately crazy fans. You make a very valid point that it would be interesting to have Becky pop up to help the Boys every now and again since I don’t think the Leviathans really know anything about her. It would make for some interesting stories for several reasons: (1) As you mentioned, Sam is well aware of Becky’s infatuation with him. It would be interesting to see Sam struggle with the moral dilemma of basically exploiting her feelings for him to get what they need, (2) It would be interesting to watch Sam and Dean try to keep Becky from getting pulled in to the hunting life. They both know how hard and tragic that life is, but Becky (much like Jo) has a fairly romanticized idea of hunting. It would be interesting for her to show up to help the Boys and have them trying to work their case while at the same time keep Becky out of the life. (3) It would be interesting to watch the toll hunting would eventually take on Becky. No one really gets a happy ending, and I think it would be good drama to watch Becky go from this overly excited, overly devoted fan to someone who comes to understand what hunting really means and is fundamentally changed by her hunting experience. That would, of course, require the writers to actually develop Becky and tone down her crazy. That’s actually the kind of storyline I was looking forward to with Jo before TPTB decided to (once again) kill off great supporting characters. But don’t get me started on that. It’s a real sore spot for me.


  4. 4

    I completely agree with you, Stacey. In fact, I wrote the Sera Gamble a letter in which I made some similar points. I mailed it last week… wouldn’t it be nice to get a reply with an apology? An acknowledgement that they screwed up?


  5. 5

    Yeah it was a little annoying, but there is one of those episodes in almost every season. It’s a light hearted one to get a few laughs rather than the seriousness the show can have, and then Crowley out at the end to bring back to serious. It did piss me off how they made Dean almost hate her, I get that he would be mad that Sam married her because it really does not make sense, but he doesn’t have to be repulsed by her.
    I also agree that it was ridiculous to write out Misha and the writers have handled that awfully. It’s like, oh yeah Cas is gone – and that’s it. I miss him :sad:


  6. 6

    Hi Stacey! I’m here via Maureen Ryan’s twitter. I couldn’t help but chime in, I hope that’s ok. =) Great rant, I totally see where you’re coming from, but I have a slightly different perspective.

    I don’t actually see Becky as a stand-in for fandom as a whole. I see her as representative of the members of the fandom that the rest of us find embarrassing. I think Becky represents the girl who sent Jensen Ackles a pair of used underwear and a love spell, or the small and insane subset of the fandom that is genuinely convinced Jared and Jensen are a secret couple, or the ones who are rude and crappy to the boys’ wives at cons (true story. ) The ones I see as stand ins for normal fandom are the gay couple from the convention episode, the two guys cosplaying Sam and Dean who, I think, were the shout out you want, whereas Becky is a caricature of the insane subset. I don’t mind Becky because, frankly, those are the folks I want to kick out of my fandom for making me look bad.

    This ep did one thing I liked. It outright called the “love potion” a roofie. I think love spells and potions and such pop up in small-s-supernatural-themed fiction a lot, and the rapey-ness doesn’t get called out nearly as hard as I’d like most of the time.

    That being said, this was not my favorite Supernatural ep, but I don’t hate it as much, or for the same reasons, as a lot of other people do.


    • 6.1

      Thanks, Jess. This is exactly how I feel about Becky. Thanks for explaining it so well.


    • 6.2

      Yea! I love a discussion! :)

      Okay, I see your point about the part of fandom that Becky is meant to represent. (And I loved the gay couple from the convention–a much more flattering representation of SPN fans as well as a nice tip of the hat to the kind of courage the show could inspire.)

      My problem is I still think Becky is an easy target. Even if she’s supposed to represent the crazies in fandom, why are we supposed to find that level of desperation and/or mental instability funny? Initially, the novelty of it was engaging. You know, kind of a “I can’t believe they went there” sort of a thing. But now, after three Becky encounters, it feels like we’re picking on someone who can’t or doesn’t know enough to defend herself.

      Especially because we’re not seeing growth in Becky. I would be fine with it, if we were seeing that her various encounters with the boys were changing her attitude/actions/thought processes. But instead, it’s just same old crazy Becky. Ick. Why am I supposed to find that funny or sympathetic? She’s not learning. If anything, she’s getting worse. So, what does the show want me to feel for her? Disgust? Pity? Amusement? I’m not sure anymore.

      One of the things I have loved about the show in the past is its ability to take really awful, seemingly irredeemable characters and make you like them. Crowley, for example. Meg, for another. That scene in which Cas kisses her and she stays behind to hold off the hellhounds is still one of my favorites (not that those two actions are linked, they just happened in quick succession as I recall and I liked them both).

      I suspect I’m supposed to look at Becky with something like affectionate annoyance. But I don’t. So, either let’s turn her into a full on enemy or have her start learning the error of her ways. Just some kind of CHANGE.

      And finally–I swear, I’ll step off my soapbox after this–I think it’s not quite fair to treat Becky’s character as harshly as they have, even assuming she represents the crazies. Here’s why: her real world counterparts in the SPN fandom have trouble, it seems, distinguishing between fiction and reality. That’s why they behave the way they do.

      But for Becky, the fictional world and characters she admires ARE real. It’s her favorite book come to life. Or, more accurately, it’s Becky discovering that her favorite books should have been shelved in the non-fiction section all along. :)

      We can’t pity her (assuming that we would, and that we pity those who behave terribly in the fandom) simply because she is obsessed with something that isn’t real. Because it IS real life in Becky’s world, as it turns out.

      They changed the playing field on her but didn’t allow her character to grow or change in response to learning that what she admired as fiction is real and probably carries some consequences she’d never considered when she thought it was all made up (much like what Jess states above–the life of a hunter may seem exciting and fulfilling until you’re actually living it).

      It’s not fair. They’re having too much fun using her as a cardboard cutout and trying to make us laugh at her, imo. And I find that frustrating.

      *hops off soapbox*

      Other thoughts? :)


      • I have to agree with you to an extent about Becky, but what I haven’t seen addressed is, not only is she the “audience” made into a character, she’s also got a lot of non-Supernatural-related issues in her life.

        Forget for the moment that her favorite series of books has come to life, and she had a date with the writer/God of the universe. That’s enough to throw your crazy into full gear right there.

        But she’s obviously (at least, this is what was shown in “Time for a Wedding!”) one of those girls from high school that I think most of us were; smart, picked on, called names, and shunned because she had her own personality and was “weird”. She’s grown up weird, probably in the same city she’d gone to school in, and now she’s having to fight for her sanity in a world that she doesn’t even know is real or not any longer.

        On top of that? High school reunions are murder. It’s why I don’t go to mine. All you do is show up and see how everyone else has a better life than you. So who wouldn’t want to bring a gorgeous hunk of man to the reunion and show him off?

        That’s not rational, that’s not even sane, but it’s a thought process that I can forgive. I can’t forgive the love spell, or the roofie-nature of it, or the lasso-ing in of Sam, but Becky *is* desperate, in a way that’s got nothing to do with her as the audience character and everything to do with who she is.

        I hope this is the last time we actually see Becky, but don’t be so hard on the kid. She’s got a lot to handle.


    • 6.3

      I am also here via Mo Ryan’s twitter. I have to say that I completely agree with you, Jess. You actually said almost the exact same thing I said to a friend of mine who finds the Becky character insulting. She not the SPN fandom. She’s the crazy 0.1% of the fandom that makes the rest of us look bad.


  7. 7

    I agree on a lot of levels, actually. I feel both empathy and sympathy for the real-Beckys. Instability/mental illness/whatever issues that make folks behave that way isn’t really funny. It sucks to live with and it sucks to witness. That being said, if I was on the receiving end of the crazy I could see having a harder time being sympathetic. I see Becky as a sort anthropomorphized stress ball. We poke and squeeze and mock as a way of releasing the frustration created by the collateral damage caused by the crazy (the disrespect to the cast and crew, and how the crazy inevitably reflects on and affects the fandom, justified or no.)

    That being said, I TOTALLY see what you mean about the easy target. Also the “desperate dateless ugly girl” line of humor is tired, misogynistic, lazy and aggravating whether it’s directed at Becky or any other female character. I felt annoyed in the same way about Dean’s reaction to the prostitute in Frontierland.

    With respect to growth in Becky-a certain amount of lack-of-growth in characters doesn’t actually bother me because I see it as realistic. Some people, on some points, just will not change or grow, regardless of how often or how hard reality smacks them in the head. This trait is most often observed when discussing politics. :neutral:

    The show is, over all, not as strong this year as it’s been in past years, I do think this ep shows that. It’s really disappointing because I’ve loved both past appearances of Becky and fandom. Whether this is a failure of leadership or just a result of a lot of new writers, I don’t know, but it’s a bummer.


    • 7.1

      Agreed! :) My favorite seasons are two and four, though I’ve always found something to enjoy in the other seasons…until this year. Gah. So frustrating. (Still, I did like last week’s ep.)


      • I’m pretty sure I’m the only person in this fandom that likes the Leviathans. =) The Borax thing is brilliant.

        I LOVED s6 (robo!Sam FTW!) and I sort of feel cheated by how they handled what should’ve been the fall out from that season. Also, I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY wanted Leviathan!Castiel to be the Big Bad for this year. Misha playing evil would be AMAZING.

        But last week was awesome, and I’ve liked a couple other eps. We’ll see how it all ends up. =)


    • 7.2

      I agree with you re the “desperate, dateless, ugly girl thing.” I admit that it did annoy me that they went that way with Becky because although Becky is completely insane, she’s not ugly at all. Although, as far as Frontierland goes, I think that was a different kind of situation. I can totally see Dean being repulsed by the prostitute. It didn’t have anything really to do with her being ugly generally. It’s that she had some weird, disgusting-looking sore on her mouth and her teeth were browner than chocolate. And she wanted to kiss him. I don’t know a modern man alive who wouldn’t be repulsed by that.


  8. 8

    I have to say that the episode wasn’t at all what I was expecting, I hoped for something different, and I kind of thought Dean would be the groom (when I first heard the name of the episode) I just figured that he’s the one who’s a bit on the edge while Sam has been more ‘normal’ lately.

    And I agree about the details, now I’ve not always been a huge fan, I saw a few episodes of the first season and a few others in between during season 2 and 3, in season four, when Dean resurrects, that’s when I became a big fan, I love the show as it was in season four and five.

    Season six was a bit of a travesty since it was mostly… boring. And Cass on his power trip didn’t help.

    So far, Season 7 was shaping up to be really good, and I’ve generally liked it more than the previous one, but this episode- which could have been epic-lly fun – was a bit flat. And in the back of my head I kind of had hoped it was Trickester a.k.a. Gabriel toying with the guys – I know he’s dead, but SPN is kind of like the X-files, no one is every really dead, even when they are dead.

    As for Becky herself, I like how uninhibited she always is, she’s fun that way but at the same time, I think that they often make her seem like a horn dog chasing after Sam and it kind of bothers me how ready they are to manipulate her if they have to, but then just leave her behind when they don’t.


  9. 9

    I really love Becky, and yeah, she did get a little ridiculous in the convention episode, but then she hooked up with Prophet Writer Guy (clearly I haven’t watched these eps in a while), and my fangirl heart gave a little cheer!

    Supernatural fans can be incredibly ridiculous, and I like that Supernatural was able to say “Wincest, guys? Really?” But I’m sad they decided to make fun of Becky so much. I haven’t seen the ep yet, but I’m sure I will look very disapprovingly indeed at the screen.

    I hope they gave her a happy ending, at least?
    My little shipper heart does not beat for this show, and I’m looking for an excuse to keep watching, and the sadface-ness of Becky’s character doesn’t help.
    The appearance of Spike and Cordy, however, did.


  10. 10

    [...] 7: Time for a Wedding,’ given that Stacey Kade did a brilliant job of taking apart everything that was wrong with that episode here. Suffice to say, I thought it made a (bad) mockery of the show’s penchant for meta episodes, [...]


  11. 11

    Apparently I’m among the minority here — I thoroughly enjoyed this episode (and think that Season 7 is turning out to be the best since Season 2).

    And I like Becky. I wholeheartedly agree that Sam should be thrilled to have her for a wife. When she isn’t acting dorky, she’s really pretty hot.

    Your idea of fleshing out her character over a 2 or 3 episode story arc is a good one, but probably too tangental to the overall mytharc of the season.

    Good call about Sam not using a fake name on the docs. I’m guessing the writers opted for his real name because a fake name would legally invalidate the marriage. (At least most of us viewers probably think it would.)

    I think that the writers have been doing a terrifc job this season. In Seasons 1 & 2 I felt that most of the episodes played out like 40 minute movies (meaning that they contained all of the plot points of a 90 min. film).

    The later seasons lost a lot of that feeling when then sacrificed the monster of the week story for A) the overall mytharc, or, B) emotional moments with S&D.


  12. 12

    Beautifully written it would be nice if Supernatural’s writers would respect the fans as much as the actors and the crew do. Sitting in their ivory towers they can sneer at us – lets see them at a few cons. I’d like to give Loftlin and Dabb some constructive criticism about their weak plotting, sophomoric humor and biting the hands that feed them. Yes this episode really pissed me off.


  13. 13

    I completely agree! That episode almost pushed me over the “I’m done with Supernatural” edge. I should have listened to my instincts and stopped there, but I kept going until the recent mid-season finale where they killed Bobby. Now I’m seriously done. IF they resurrect Bobby, I MIGHT watch more, but that’s a big if. I can’t believe they took one of my favorite shows and ruined it like this:!: :cry:


  14. 14

    ‘Supernatural’ is the only show I’ve followed from season 1. Now that I think about it, isn’t the show going into season 7? I know that the writers had intended on quitting after season 3, and it definitely shows in their screenplays. I really don’t want to let go of the show because it’s been a part of my life for so long, but maybe it’s time they call it quits :|. The story lines become more ridiculous each season, and less and less relatable. Though I have to say I thoroughly enjoyed Castiel’s story.




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